Common Questions Birth Parents ask:
Are the services for birthparents at Infant of Prague – Central California Adoption Service free of charge? Yes, all services are provided to birthparents at no charge.
How much control do I have in this whole process? You have as much control as you want. If you plan an adoption, you choose the family to raise your child. You determine the level of openness that’s right for you and your child. You determine who will attend the birth, when your child will be placed, and how often you will visit and/or receive letters and pictures afterward.
Can I call you even if I haven’t decided to plan an adoption? Yes, we encourage you to do so. At IPAS we believe you know what’s best for you and your child. Our counselors will spend as much time as you need to review your options, so you can make the choice that’s right for you and your child. If you decide not to plan an adoption, we will refer you to resources and organizations that can assist you in parenting.
Can I name my baby, and will the adoptive parents keep the name I pick? Yes, you may name the baby. The name you choose will be on the original birth certificate. The adoptive family will also name the baby, and they will receive another birth certificate, which is created at finalization. Choosing a name that all of you like will be part of the discussion between you and the adoptive family.
Is ongoing contact good for my baby? YES! Research about children in closed adoptions has reported that these children are troubled by two haunting questions: 1)Who do I look like? and 2)Why didn’t my birthparents parent me? An open adoption allows you, the birthmother, to answer these and other questions, and express your love for your child, in an atmosphere of honesty and openness.
Can the birthfather be involved in the process? Yes, we welcome the cooperation and participation of the birthfather. He can help you choose the family, and he can meet them and develop an ongoing relationship with them, also. He can provide the same information as you: family background, education, job, medical history, ambitions, etc. We also request that he complete and sign papers, if possible, prior to the birth.
Will I be able to see my baby in the hospital? Will my family, friends, and the birthfather be able to see my baby? Yes, you can spend as much or as little time as you would like with the baby. You will determine who else sees the baby. Your counselor will help you make the arrangements that suit you.
At Infant of Prague – Central California Adoption Services, you are entitled to unlimited, free adoption counseling before, during, and after placement of your baby. You will have an advocate with experience in adoption to act as an intermediary between you and your selected adoptive family. If there is any conflict in the future, we will be there to help you.
What do I do next? Call us to make an appointment with a counselor. If transportation is a problem, we’ll come to you. We’ll be discreet when returning your call.