Birth grandparents are an integral and meaningful part of an open adoption relationship and plan. They are encouraged to maintain an ongoing life-long relationship with their grandchild, with the agency’s support. IPAS welcomes the involvement of birth grandparents and extends free counseling services to them as well, for as long as needed.
This letter is from the mother of a birthmother:
My daughter was only 16 when she became pregnant. She was afraid of disappointing us so she didn’t tell us she was pregnant right away. We felt like failures because she didn’t feel she could talk to us. I called Infant of Prague to see how they could help. Our whole family received counseling and participated in the agency’s support group. There were several other grandparents-to-be in the group so we never felt alone. We met with a counselor for five months. She never pressured us. She gave “Susie” lots of homework on what to expect if she decided to parent the baby. “Susie” finally realized she was too young to be a mother and that she needed to finish growing up herself. She hadn’t even finished high school yet. We never told anyone about the baby – we didn’t want to have to deal with the reaction of other people. We selected a perfect family for our grandson and my daughter slipped back into school. To this day we still meet occasionally with the adoptive family and know how our grandson is doing. “Susie” finished school and now has a good job. – “Helen”